Deep Purple Dreams

your death is still an abstraction
in my mind

I saw the online obituary
last night
a picture of you so gleeful
with one of your hat creations atop  your head

I said to myself, "Why that is Sue!"
and then I re-remembered that the photograph
accompanied your obituary

I know nothing.
nothing, nothing, nothing
and I have known I know nothing for many years now

but a primal place inside of me
knows that where you are is good
and soft and kind and pretty

I KNOW that.
and this knowledge is visceral not cerebral
I'm going with visceral more and more these days

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stuff was backward Sunday afternoon
my bike was that is

at 2:16  I got on my new green bike
and the seat felt too high
and when I tried to pedal, it was too hard
my knees just up and hit the handlebars


I lay the bike on the front lawn
and as I did I remembered how I used to do that all the time
when i was a kid- back in the day when a girl
could leave her bike lying in the front yard
with no worry that someone  might take it

I went inside and Dan comes out, looks at the bike
and says, "Lucy, you have the wheel all turned around."

and gosh, I did
and then I got on the bike and I pedaled west
to meet my friend for a walk
relieved I was as I pedaled toward my friend's house

maybe an hour later I was back on the bike
the short walk with my friend  over
and my phone buzzed in the pocket of my  shorts

I did not answer it since I was just a block from home
but I knew what the call was
somewhere between my backward bike problem
and my walk underneath the glorious February sky
you left

all that morning I had been playing
top Billboards from 1963
and for the past few days since you died
these words keep coming across my mind

sure is a pretty song, isn't it?
it was one of those that hung in the back row of my memory
like a comfy sweater I had long forgotten
 sure am glad I found it again



HERE  are the lyrics if you want to sing along. Singing always makes me feel good. 



NINO TEMPO AND APRIL STEVENS

"Deep Purple"

When the deep purple falls over sleepy garden walls
And the stars begin to twinkle in the night
In the mist of a memory you wander on back to me
Breathing my name with a sigh

In the still of the night once again I hold you tight
Though you're gone, your love lives on when moonlight beams
And as long as my heart will beat, sweet lover we'll always meet
Here in my deep purple dreams
Here in my deep purple dreams

When the deep purple falls over sleepy garden walls
And the stars begin to twinkle in the night
In the mist of a memory you wander back to me
Breathing my name with a sigh

In the still of the night once again I hold you tight
Though you're gone, your love lives on when moonlight beams
And as long as my heart will beat, sweet lover we'll always meet
Here in my deep purple dreams
And as long as my heart will beat, sweet lover we'll always meet
Here in my deep purple dreams

The Gift of the Mundane

When I was thirty-nine, my mother died. This was my first experience with a death that was close.
It was my first experience with watching a person decline and die.

I suffered protracted grief that went on for years. I became angrier, more driven, and much less spontaneous.

Now at nearly sixty-two loss comes knocking more and more often. No amount of barricading will keep it away.

Today I got up and got going. I notice that I welcome my daily chores more and more the older I get.
They serve as a roadmap for my day.

I have come to be grateful for structure. When I was younger, I spend much energy rebelling against it. I guess I feared being swallowed by routine.

As today wore on, I began to feel a sensation as though I were trying to walk through a wall of water.
My chores became more difficult. My body felt unbelievably spent.

I knew I must rest. The best relaxation for me is to lie flat on my back on the floor and stare at the ceiling. The hard surface of the floor serves to ground  me.

If I get lucky, one of my feline familiars rubs its face against mine or bumps its body against me tickling my soul just a tad and reminding me how much delight life still offers.

Five minutes flat on the floor helps to restore me.

I get up and do the next thing on the list.

I have learned to lower my expectations for my day as I age.

Grieving forces that on me.

Moving slowly but steadily has its own rewards.

It allows me to take in the small, sweet bits of my day.

My Love Song to Sue

You were a bit of  a sprite

in those last days.

I lay  at the end of your bed,

and I asked if you knew how much I loved you.

And you said you wanted me to tell you how much.

So I told you that if I were to paint a picture of my love

it would be of a place where the sky is always violet

and proud blue spruces stand tall.

Later I made reference to a Downton Abbey  plot detail

you had not yet watched. You looked me in the eye and said, "Busted!

We giggled a bit. Then you let out a Sueism.

"If I have to die, I will die funny".

Jolly times we surely shared.

We had a little ritual for a spell there in the '90's

in which we would greet one another

by breaking into a silly dance: we never needed music to dance.

Hard times we shared too.

Walks and talks in which tears

and confidences were exchanged.

You were my for better or for worse friend.

You walked your talk, my girl.

And I adored you for that.

You could tune an engine and wield a hack saw

as well as the next guy. And I was in awe of that.

Well, okay there.

You go girl; you go funny

'cause funny is good.

 Zip-A- Dee-Doo- Dah- lady- friend- of -mine

For every dance step I take, I'll do one for you.

For each beach day I have, I'll send you a sun ray.

But if you were to ask me, my sweet girl,

more than dying funny, you died strong.

There will come a day when the skies

will open to hues of purple and aqua and

orange and red.

And we all who loved you shall cast our eyes upward.

If we look real hard, we shall see

a chariot drawing itself across the heavens.

A regal woman rests upon a golden chair.

And her name is Sue, Queen of Serendipity.

                                                     Sue and Paula August, 2012

Weeki Wachee River

 

Sue wheeling me through Lettuce Lake Park

Summer, 2011

Our yard sale at Sue's house

Playing Dress-up sometime in the 80's

At twenty-eight years old when I first met her.

Dancing Crazy

Paula, Sue and June

"Bad Taste In Outer Space"